Bullying can have a lasting impact on mental health, self-esteem, and overall well-being. Whether it happens in person or online, the effects of bullying can lead to anxiety, depression, stress, and even suicidal thoughts. If you’re experiencing bullying, know that you are not alone, and help is available.

Understanding Bullying and Its Impact

Bullying is defined as repeated, aggressive behavior intended to intimidate, harm, or control someone. It can take many forms, including:

  • Verbal Abuse – Name-calling, insults, or threats
  • Physical Bullying – Hitting, pushing, or physical intimidation
  • Social Bullying – Exclusion, spreading rumors, or damaging someone’s reputation
  • Cyberbullying – Harassment via social media, messaging apps, gaming platforms, or impersonation online

Bullying can occur at any age—from childhood to adulthood—and is often linked to race, gender, sexuality, body image, disability, or personal identity. No one deserves to be bullied, and no matter what you’re facing, support is available.

The Reality of Bullying in the U.S.

Bullying is a serious issue affecting people across the country:

  • 1 in 5 high school students in the U.S. reports being bullied at school (CDC, 2023).
  • Nearly 15% of students experience cyberbullying, making online harassment a growing concern.
  • Adults, too, experience workplace bullying, which can lead to increased stress, anxiety, and even job loss.

If you are being bullied, you don’t have to face it alone. There are safe spaces and supportive communities ready to help.

What to Do If You’re Being Bullied

If you’re experiencing bullying, here are steps you can take::

  • Talk to Someone You Trust – Speak with a friend, teacher, therapist, or trusted family member about what’s happening.
  • Document the Incidents – Keep records of harmful messages, screenshots, or interactions if you need to report the behavior.
  • Block & Report – If you are being cyberbullied, most platforms allow you to report abusive behavior and block the person responsible.
  • Seek Professional Support – Mental health professionals can help you process emotions and develop coping strategies to navigate bullying situations.

Local Santa Barbara Resources for Support

If you’re facing bullying, Santa Barbara has numerous resources where you can find help and support:

1. Mental Wellness Center (Santa Barbara)
Providing mental health support, advocacy, and peer groups, the Mental Wellness Center offers counseling and resources for individuals facing emotional distress.

2. CALM (Child Abuse Listening Mediation)
CALM offers trauma-informed therapy and intervention for children and families affected by bullying, abuse, or emotional distress.

3. NAMI Santa Barbara County (National Alliance on Mental Illness)
NAMI provides mental health resources, crisis support, and peer-led support groups for those struggling with bullying and emotional well-being.

4. Santa Barbara Unified School District – Anti-Bullying Programs
If you’re a student, your school counselors and administrators can help address bullying. Many schools have peer mediation programs and mental health support services.

5. Santa Barbara 211 (Community Helpline & Resource Directory)
Phone: Dial 2-1-1 for 24/7 confidential support to be connected with local mental health services and crisis resources.

How to Support Someone Who Is Being Bullied

If you see or know someone facing bullying, be an ally:
  • Listen Without Judgment – Allow them to share their feelings at their own pace.
  • Encourage Them to Seek Support – Share local resources or offer to go with them.
  • Stand Up Against Bullying – If safe, speak up or report the behavior.
  • Be Present – Sometimes, simply being there for someone can make all the difference.

📞 Need Immediate Support? Call Santa Barbara County 211 or contact one of the local organizations above for help.

Your mental wellness matters, and help is available.